Protector and Provider

“YES I am a PROTECTOR and PROVIDER of my Mother and Sister as I do that out of love and affection and THEY have done a lot and NOW at this time of CRISIS caused by a sick 498A WIFE they are with me. SO I AM NOT AGAINST THEM AT ALL. I am not against WOMAN but against those PERSONS who are misusing the
laws.” – X

Dear X. Your sentiment is well respected by most males in our forum.

1). BUT, this is exactly the same sentiment that our 498A wives’ fathers and brothers are using to attack husbands. Because they feel they are the protectors of their women they want to take control of each minute of their daughter’s/sister’ s life.

2). As for “I am a PROTECTOR and PROVIDER of my Mother and Sister”, let us assume that the Protector and Provider dies today. So what is to become of the mother and sister in this ‘big, bad male dominated society”. Should they perish and die since they dont have a P&P? Should they commit suicide? Should we expect them not to survive at all? Are women(mother and sister)such incompetents that they cant survive at all?

So you see, it is exactly this kind of thinking(based on fear) that led to this current state of affairs. Nobody is asking anyone to hate women, but let us not dont consider them so weak that they cant survive on their own. The fear is in our minds. Let us not allow fear to drive our thinking. It leads to laws like 498A etc.,

ALIMONY = DOWRY


In a country where equality is supposed to be the norm on paper at least, the concept of alimony in case of divorce is the same as the concept of dowry during marriage. The latter is separation money given by the father towards the daughter and the former by the husband towards the wife. If we are fighting dowry, alimony should also be opposed.

The greatest crime against women is to keep them in servitude and victimize their psyche with the concept of alimony and maintenance. Why is the self respect/dignity of women being destroyed with the concept of Alimony?

Crimes Against Women Cell!!! Yeah Right!!!

CAW means Crimes Against Women. If you or anyone are summoned by this cell in connection with a complaint(for counselling or not), it means that you are already being treated as a

1). Criminal without trial
2). Criminal who has done crime against women.

Firstly, CAW is a psychological trap designed with only one outcome in mind. To destroy any resistance. The mere act of going to a CAW cell summons will be portrayed as if you and I are going to be sentenced for all the imaginary rapes and molestations done against all women from the present till Eve. It takes a very emotionally stable and clear headed man to come out in one psychological peice.

Secondly, to even acknowledge CAW is to acknowledge the lies of feminists. I will not do that.

Thirdly, let us not take part in putting these feminists in power, not even in a local thana. To do that is to commit Crime Against Men. I totally object to even the existence of the phrase ‘Crimes against Women’. I refuse to allow any man to be summoned to any institution named CAW.

Yeh Daag Acche Nahin Hai

This has been bothering me for quite sometime. Yesterday I realized that the Surf Excel Ad with the little school boy who imitates a dog to console and please his teacher(a woman) is basically very demeaning towards men and boys. This ad is very cleverly packaged to make it look like it is a very endearing act of the boy. But in effect it is reflecting society’s encouragement of men to undergo such demeaning antics to please women. Observe how the female teacher throws the ball to test the boy’s reaction, how she enjoys it and even rewards him after his submissive act. So what is wrong with all this? Imagine the same ad with gender roles reversed. Imagine the reaction of our local feminist groups? It would have been called molestation and the society would have been given a lengthy 6 month lecture about gender sensitization and crimes against women and the girl child.

Break your conditioned chains


Arvind

You are carrying too much of emotional baggage. Men have been brainwashed into carrying guilt for everything since centuries. These chains of Family, religion, responsibilities, patriotism, chivalry, financial burden(burden all your life and also after death thru life insurance :)), sexual taboo(talk about it, dont talk about it).
Remove all this load from your head, it will feel lighter. Nobody is asking you not to care for your family, only dont feel so responsible for it. Even if I die today, my family will survive, life will go on: Maybe by chance, it will be even better, nobody knows.
Remove that invisible baggage. Think for yourself for a change. There is nothing wrong in being truly selfish. If you are happy, it will affect your family also as a byproduct.
But the fact remains that our environment today is the product of our parents and ancestors, their actions and reactions. You dont have to hate them for it. Its just the facts. Civilization means that men have to get better at their thinking, by removing all the baggage, its like cleaning up the hard drive, removing the viruses and defragmenting it. It sounds hard, but its actually very practical and easy.

Feminism is jaundiced

http://www.dnaindia.com/mumbai/report_there-is-a-welfare-ministry-for-women-why-not-one-for-men_1303548

My Comment:
Women’s rights advocates will always want to break up families to please their jaundiced eyes. People like these want the entire population to have broken up families. Her statements clearly show her intentions. Also she admits that gender biased laws were created just to break up patriarchy. Nowhere has she talked of any real issues faced by women.It is time they reviewed their hate mongering ideology.

The Politics of Hate

A new social evil is fast becoming apparent. Everywhere we see posters and ads and banners and TV shows sanctimoniously showing the phrase “STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN” endorsed by celebrities and politicians and all the other dimes and nickels.

So its the fashion statement of the century. Wonderful. So which woman or man does not want to repeat it. Lets put the phrase under the sunlight for just a moment. “STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN”. Now the questions that really need to be asked is in what is NOT being said.

Does it mean we should not stop VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN?
Does it mean only men commit VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN?
Does it imply that there have been no women criminals till date?
Does it not imply that it is OK to commit VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN?

The SVAW campaign is like saying “Stop Violence against the right eye only”; Who is to speak for the left eye or for the other body parts. These morons who shout from the rooftops or start ringing the neighbour’s bell must first ask themselves these questions?

Am I not born of a mother AND a father?
Am I not part of the human race which is made possible by both genders?

And if they cannot convince themselves of saying yes, we can leave them in their twisted mental cages.

Criminal Intimidation of women by proclaimed champions of women

On 21/Oct/2009, a leading Indian human rights activist Uma Challa was threatened by a phone caller on a live TV discussion at TV5 channel studio. Uma Challa is an emerging voice of reason and a beacon of hope for a very marginalized and rapidly growing section of women who have been the object of hate and false persecution by gender specific and biased laws intended to appease wives only.

This episode has brought a few facts in the open.
  • That the proclaimed champions of womens rights do not have the mandate to speak for the entire gender. It is not even their intention to do so.
  • While they employ divisive, hypocritical and apparently conceited concepts like “Stop Violence Against Women”, they show no compunction in employing hate and criminal intimidation tactics to suppress women who speak out against their brand of bigotry.
  • That their ideology is based entirely on hate and stems from a deep rooted fear of life and wholesome living.
The Background:

My speech at the launch of DV Awareness Month- Press Conference

I am assuming that apart from your careers, when you go back home, you will find yourself in the role of parents, brothers, sisters and children. This is to say that family life is the center of our lives. Any danger or harm to any member of our family hurts the rest of the family, and we, as common citizens, rest our faith in the law enforcement and justice system, laws and procedures, to protect us and our families from harm. What happens when you find out that you and your family members are not eligible for protection just because you happen to be a man or a blood relative of a man?

The Constitution of India guarantees us the Right to Equality under Article 14. But Indian laws against domestic violence do not treat men and women as equals, reminding us of George Orwell’s Animal Farm where “All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others”.

In fact, these laws do not even treat ALL women equally. This is due to the fact that these laws see women in only one role. And it is the role of a wife. They see women only as wives. So, daughters, sisters, mothers & grandmothers are being sent to jails along with their sons, brothers and grandsons. They are being thrown out of their homes on the strength of a single unproven accusation.

We are witnessing an unprecedented rise in Human Rights abuse through the enactment and execution of a few laws instituted in the name of empowerment of women.

In an effort to end this discrimination under law and to ensure equal protection for men and women against all forms of abuse, we, the members of Save Indian Family Foundation, All India Forgotten Women, Rishtey and Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting are launching a month-long awareness programme….http://dvawareness-india.blogspot.com/

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

For all those of you married men and all of you brothers, sisters, parents and grandparents of those married men, those of you who dreamed of a fairy tale happily ever after story, this should kick you into waking up to reality……our fair society has devised a way to tear out your hearts, bleed out your life long savings, rob you of your children and kick you out into the streets…and this is after your reputation is flushed down the toilet.

Enter the PWDVA. If you still dont know what this is…click here… http://dvawareness-india.blogspot.com/