International Men’s Day 2015


Twitter handle: #InternationalMensDay
International Men’s Day is a day to commemorate and reflect on the many values, contributions and accomplishments that are attributed to men. Beginning with the discovery of fire and invention of the wheel to the Mars Orbiter Mission, the journey of man has transcended both time and space, but we somehow remain in the same circle of hope, apathy & despair.
Mankind thrives on inspiration which is best symbolized in the spirit of freedom. This is the spirit that overthrows oppression and tyranny, the spirit that invents and innovates, the spirit that nourishes and cares.
International Men’s Day is the day to celebrate all the positive male values that make us human and also makes us uniquely human.
IMD is also an effort to improve gender relations and use benign gender sensitivity to understand and appreciate a long misunderstood gender because of its generally stoic nature
November 19 of each year has been celebrated as the International Men’s Day (IMD). In India, IMD was first celebrated with a car and bike rally in Mumbai in 2007, In Hyderabad it was i2009. Each year IMD celebrations grew in size and we saw IMD being endorsed by the HE range of deodorants in 2014.
Every year, IMD is celebrated with a theme. This year’s theme deals with Male Health issues..
It is well known that the average male life-expectancy is 5 years lower than the female life-expectancy. Men suffer many ailments which are usually attributed to their workaholism. But it is also true that men take on much higher stress and is linked to their non-expression of emotional issues. Research spending on male health is a fraction on what is spent on female health issues.

Posts by medical health professionals:We are expecting medical and psychological health professionals to contribute by posting their short synopses or online links of male health issues to be displayed on this page.
Generally speaking, there is an absence of gender-research organizations or programmes to look into male-related issues. Through this page and this commemorative date, we wish to encourage individuals, groups, corporate entities and male-oriented product brands to promote and conduct events, surveys, discussions on this topic.
Event suggestions: Rallies, Mixers-Blenders, foodie group events, seminars, art-expositions, selfie contests, twitter feeds, talk shows, stand-up comedy shows, Employee/employer appreciations, male-specific brand promotions, group health-checkups, charity work,
Call for sharing their plans for IMD
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Post your event pics and experiences: Please post your links either on to this page or send an email of thoughts, pictures, videos to share your experiences’s

‘Combating Online Violence Against Women & Girls: A Worldwide Wake-Up Call’ – A waste of a good coffee

‘Majority of women suffer online abuse says UN Report’; reads the early morning coffee news item. This is enough to make me want to go back to the safety of my sleep. But it is time again to unravel these mysterious statements by the UN.

The report goes on to talk about ‘cyber violence’ and further says that ‘India is one of the countries where reporting about cyber bullying is low’. Again and again we hear of these ‘unreported’ cases somehow being ‘reported’ perhaps telepathically from victim to UN report makers. Or does the UN also employ tarot cards and astrologers’ parrots to pick a number. More on that in a moment.   
Let’s take a break to refill the coffee mug. Things are about to get more interesting.

The report named ‘Combating Online Violence Against Women & Girls: A Worldwide Wake-Up Call’. The quotes go on as such ‘only 35% women in India reported their victimization while a larger majority 46.7% had not. About 18.3% were not even aware that they had been victimized’ Now coming to the interesting part, which poses a few serious questions.

  1. How did they know the exact figure of 46.7% had not reported victimization when it was not reported? Are the UN reporters on some kind of medication that made them hallucinate?
  2. How did the UN know it was just 35% of women who reported abuse when they did not know how many actually faced the abuse? How does the UN know the actual number of women who are online? Is the UN secretly stalking these women? Does the UN realize it is a crime?
  3. How could 18.3% not even be aware that they had been victimized? Is this the online analogy of telling someone that they were sleep walking, or is it just a covert message being sent to women to get in touch with their ‘feelings’ about being abused?
  4. Where is the report on how many men face online abuse?
  5. Where is the report on how many men have ‘not reported’ their online abuse?
  6. Where the report on how many men are not even aware that they have been victimized by these UN reports?

The report goes on (..and on and on) to says that women in the age range of 18 to 24 are ‘uniquely likely’ to experience stalking and sexual harassment in addition to physical threats. The above statement can only be made by an unemployed astrologer desperate for some attention or it could be made by a very respectable body called the UN which has stopped being effective in curtailing real human issues and is now waging war against Men & Boys.

Seems like the UN is no longer a place where real humanitarian work takes place, nor does it stand for equality or justice anymore. This is evident from the end statement of the news report which reiterates the UN mandate as Sensitization, Safeguards and Sanctions- Sensitization of ‘feelings’ so that it can create  Safeguards against imaginary threats and impose Sanctions against about half of the human population. 

Addendum 1: For Your Information, UN please consider the following:

Addendum 2: 

Fact-checking the UN: Is the Internet dangerous for women?

Dharna Against Anti-Male Laws, May 22, 2011

Save Indian Family – Hyderabad is supporting Dhashrat Devda’s Dharna and Hunger Strike in demand to remove anti-male biased laws like IPC 498A, and to gender-neutralize other misandrist laws like DV Act, Maintenance Laws etc., Dashrat Devda has started his unger strike at Jantar Mantar, New Delhi on 15th May.

Meanwhile, more than 57000 married men are committing suicide each year (Source: National Crime Records Bureau, Min. of Home Affairs) unable to cope with misandrist(hatred of males) laws like IPC 498A, DV Act, Maintenance Laws and the anti-male mindset of society and government, in particular.

These laws have already started a mass extermination of married men and are causing untold suffering and senseless prosecution of young and middle aged men in general. As it is, there is no social safety net or social measures from the side of the government towards the single largest contributors (men) of tax revenues to society. Not even a single rupee has been spent so far towards the welfare of men. Even animals have a share of government protection and welfare programs.

It is an open secret that laws like IPC 498A and DV Act and Maintenance are all being used as tools of extortion to financially enslave men of productive age and law abiding mindset. Being free men in a free country, we cannot let this continue.

We demand the following:

· Repeal IPC 498A

· Close down Crimes Against Women Cell

· Constitute National Commission for Men

· Mediation in marital disputes should not be handled by Police

· Simplify and ease out Divorce procedures

· No maintenance to women. Women assert equal rights have equal opportunity to earn a living.

· Stop judicial bias against men.

· Amend DV Act of 2005 to be gender neutral.

· Penalty for misusers of IPC 498A till now

· Compensate victims of IPC 498A misuse

Public is requested to speak out in support of men. Thousands of families and children and elderly parents are
being affected by these laws. If left to continue, these laws will destroy the very fabric of society.

Who IS the Goverment?

All our lives, we were thinking of ourselves, our career, our struggles, our loans, our houses, our spouse, our children, their education, our entertainment and our wellbeing. And to facilitate all this we expected the government to provide infrastructure, ensure peace and harmony, ensure supply of essential goods, protect ‘us’ from outsiders. And for all this, all we had to do was cast our vote once in 5 years and pay our taxes and obey the law and participate in corrective measures.

Whenever we face atrocious laws like 498A, DV Act etc., we dissociate from the government. We say the government is blind, the police are high-handed, the judiciary is insensitive, and all of the above are plain corrupt and absolutely rotten.

So now the question is who is the government. The government is our own creation. We ‘are’ the government. We the people, who pay taxes, cast our votes…. As soon as we hit a hurdle, ‘we’ becomes ‘them’ and ‘us’. Negativity takes over. We see everything in a colour of anger and hurt and cynicism. Who is the enemy? The enemy is within. ‘We’ made the government, we feed the government, it is our servant, it is ‘we’.

The system of correction involves the loop of analysis and also the corrective action. To ‘ensure’ both, real work is needed and it is only to be done by ‘us’.
The government is like a pet animal. It will obey only when commanded and that too only after it is trained. This takes effort from the master, the people and that is us. If the animal bites the master, it is not only the fault of the animal, it is also the fault of the master who has failed to control the animal, who has failed to train the animal properly.

We the people, have been bitten again and again, because we have failed to take proper corrective action. Instead of simply blaming the monster that ‘we’ have created, ‘we’ have to take corrective action. The emphasis is on the word ‘ACTION’.

So the question is plainly put. Will you ACT or will you just complain to the winds?

I am 498A. I was born to rape men…..

I am 498A. I was born to rape men and their families. I belong to a gang of rapists and looters. My sister is the famous DVA. She is the wolf in sheep’s clothing, but I am the wolf in a lion’s clothing. I am a tool of Sexual Harassment and criminal extortion. Usually I am the first to attack unsuspecting married men. I am uniquely gifted in my ability to create terror. Many men prefer to commit suicide after I point my finger at them. Some of them quickly surrender to me and pay me a handsome ransom. Many married women and their parents are inspired by me and very frequently use me to loot their husbands and make quick, huge and tax free money. I am patronized by a lot of twisted bitches and greedy bastards in high places. I am an abomination-in-law. I hate my own existence but I have a strong need to destroy all traces of decency and reason. I was created by deception and twisted statistics motivated by the evil of gender bias. I am fueled by hate and greed. The irony is that I was conceived under the ruse of battling greed and the bogey of gender equality.

I am the real tool of Sexual Harassment; since I discriminate against men only because they are men. I deserve to be punished first under the proposed laws of sexual harassment. I am the institutionalized tool of extortion. I deserve to be punished by the criminal laws against extortion. I deserve to be punished for conspiracy to commit crimes against humanity for my intention to destroy half of it. I deserve to be punished for openly declaring war against the Constitution of the nation I have pledged my allegiance to.

I am boiling with pure hatred against the resilience of some men and women who refuse to give in to my extortion and refuse to give up their fight against me. I have been defeated morally & legally 98% of the time by these people; the very reason for my existence has been brought under the question of justice, but since my creators and my supporters don’t have any shame or faith in the framework of their own laws, I carry on my dark business and my indulge in my sick pleasures. I sense the sword of reason on my neck and I may be beheaded any time, but, till the time comes, I keep testing humanity’s faith in justice.
I am 498A and I was born to rape men and their families…

International Day of Families Speech

We all need a witness to our lives. ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness’ – Movie “Shall we dance”
And if a husband-wife relationship is about having a witness to our lives, then children and their children are the evidences. And we can trace this evidence from the start of the human life till and me.
Only the bonds of family makes all these witnesses and evidences and survival itself meaningful. Only the bonds of family makes us different from rocks and trees. It is not just the family members that make a family, it is the bond that makes a family.
A marriage and family is a framework of these bonds. People change, people die, but these ties remain. We cannot live in isolation. This is the legacy and the blueprint for the survival of the human race.
Today, this very bond, these feelings of trust and love, this is what is being attacked viciously.
For a false and temporary sense of freedom & individuality, the concept of isolation is being propogated with a sense of rabid righteousness. A new regime of laws and politics are being developed. So the question is..
How will the concept of family survive if one gender is shown as genetically and socially superior to the other?
It will not.
Let us observe the bonds themselves. These are built on the values of trust, love and sacrifice.
Today, the whole concept of marriage and family has been brought under the purview of a contract, a mere business of convenience and a framework of transaction.
But trust cannot be enforced by law, love cannot be enforced by state machinery, care cannot be ensured by punishment. Infact, none of these values can be brought under the purview of the State. Which is to say that Government may do anything to support a family system, but may not interfere or try to legalize the family structure. For in the very attempt to ‘legalize’ marriage, the inference is that anything in a marriage that is not seen as official or under the prying eyes of the State is illegal.
On the contrary, any social experimentation, especially by the government, on family obligations is counter-productive. The results of these experimentations have become spectacularly clear today. Today, we are witnessing the systematic breakdown of the family structures that gave the identity of the human race. In the name of women’s empowerment, male hatred is being preached as being fashionable. It is like cutting off one hand to make the other hand look longer. And it does not stop there. The State with the active help of feminist organisations are saying that this is actually good for the human body.

There already exists laws to combat crime and human greed. By categorising crime specific to family situations is an attempt to break down the family structures itself and not the crime.
Let me give you an example. We all have heard of the cases of disproportionate assets by judges and also about corrupt judges. Why is there no special law called the Corrupt Judges Act? The reasons are obvious. They will say that there is already a Prevention of Corruption Act. Dowry harassment is the same as extortion. Then why do we have a Dowry Act when there is already a law against extortion? Why have a domenstic violence act when there is already a law against violence? It is only to feed the egos of a few maniacs in power. These are the people who cannot see a family structure to which they do not themselves belong.

It is a fact that every bond is subject to wear, tear and breakage and it could be for any reason. In a situation where the differences are irreconciliable, the husband or the wife should be allowed to walk away cleanly. But our legal system has biased itself to such an extent that it gives two different verdicts to husbands and wives given the same set of petitioning circumstances. If a man asks for divorce he is automatically labelled irresponsible and if a woman asks she is said to be a victim of circumstances.

It is an irony that the very system of laws like IPC 498A, DV Act & Maintenance Laws which have been created as the champion against the Indian husband’s mythical greed and imaginatively systemized violent nature are tools of extortion themselves. A tool of extortion to combat extortion. This is the result of State interference into family life.

If this is not stopped today, very soon, we will witness the destruction of the fabric of family life and the very identity of India will be on the verge of extinction.

I demand the following:

  • Scrap IPC 498A since appeals to amend the section were ignored.
  • Scrap DV Act since appeals to amend the Act were ignored.
  • Progressively ensure that laws do not infringe and intrude into family issues.
  • Ensure that Government is made to pay damages/compensation to families who had to suffer the trauma inflicted by the creation and execution of these family specific biased laws.